16 Things I Wish They Had Taught Me in School at Personal Development with The Positivity Blog
But sometimes I wish that I had known some of things I have learned over the last few years a bit earlier. That perhaps there had been a self-improvement class in school. And in some ways there probably was.
1. The 80/20 rule.
2. Parkinson’s Law.
You can do things quicker than you think.
or routine tasks can create a lot of procrastination and low-level
anxiety. One good way to get these things done quickly is to batch
them. This means that you do them all in row.
4. First, give value (to others). Then, get value. Not the other way around.
5. Be proactive. Not reactive.
This one ties into the last point. If everyone is reactive then very little will get done.
6. Mistakes and failures are good.
you are young you just try things and fail until you learn. As you grow
a bit older, you learn from - for example - school to not make
mistakes. And you try less and less things. This may cause you
to stop being proactive and to fall into a habit of being reactive, of
waiting for someone else to do something.
7. Don’t beat yourself up.
do people give up after just few mistakes or failures? Well, I think
one big reason is because they beat themselves up way too much. But
it’s a kinda pointless habit. It only creates additional and
unnecessary pain inside you and wastes your precious time.
8. Assume rapport.
new people is fun. But it can also induce nervousness. We all want to
make a good first impression and not get stuck in an awkward
best way to do this that I have found so far is to assume rapport. This
means that you simply pretend that you are meeting one of your best
friends. Then you start the interaction in that frame of mind instead
of the nervous one.
9. Use your reticular activation system to your advantage.
this focus system, this R.A.S, in your mind does is to allow you to see
in your surroundings what you focus your thoughts on. It pretty much
always helps you to find what you are looking for.
So you really need to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. And keep that focus steady.
Setting goals and
reviewing them frequently is one way to keep your focus on what’s
important and to help you take action that will move your closer to
toward where you want to go.
10. Your attitude changes your reality.
When you change you attitude you change what you focus on. And all things in your world can now be seen in a different light.
11. Gratitude is a simple way to make yourself feel happy.
I was probably told that I should be grateful. Perhaps because it was
the right thing to do or just something I should do. But if someone had
said that feeling grateful about things for minute or two is a great
way to turn a negative mood into a happy one I would probably have
practised gratitude more.
12. Don’t compare yourself to others.
A more useful way is
to compare yourself to yourself. To look at how far you have come, what
you have accomplished and how you have grown. It may not sound like
that much fun but in the long run it brings a lot more inner stillness,
personal power and positive feelings.
13. 80-90% of what you fear will happen never really come into reality.
is a big one. Most things you fear will happen never happen. They are
just monsters in your own mind. And if they happen then they will most
often not be as painful or bad as you expected. Worrying is most often
just a waste of time.
14. Don’t take things too seriously.
15. Write everything down.
your memory is anything like mine then it’s like a leaking
bucket. Many of your good or great ideas may be lost forever if you
don’t make a habit of writing things down. This is also a good
way to keep your focus on what you want.
16. There are opportunities in just about every experience.